This life is unfair. Our lives, our destinies, our purposes are portioned differently. But different does not mean less significant, and we are all called to steward what He has given us in His wisdom.
I know that there are probably really horrible things that might have happened to you. I understand that some trauma is so deep, that it seems like it will be there forever. And yes, I recognize there are a lot of details I don’t know about your story… But no matter what has happened: you are not a victim.